After dealing with my own demons and my unhealthy families during the holidays, the coolest thing to see after it was that I was nominated for the The Narcissism Slayer Award by CZBZ at The Narcissist Continuum. Her blog has helped me understand so much about my own battle with narcissism and I am grateful for her insight and wisdom. Thank you this and for the nomination.
It is so great to be in the company of bloggers that are courageous to say what they think and feel and to have a support system when I am dealing with all that is going on in my head. You have changed how I cross the threshold into the enmeshed family’s home. I know you are by my side and that feeling of being alone is no longer there when I have to take one more abusive comment. Or when I make a mistake or realise my own unhealthy narcissism. Thank You.
Here is the post with the rules and guidelines at The Narcissist Continuum.
I second the blogs listed at the The Narcissist Continuum as well as the following:
As for guideline #5 (Share one positive thing you took away from your relationship with a narcissist). I took away my self-worth. I don’t know if I had any or if I had still a morsel of some but I know that I never felt worthy of much. Worthy of standing up for myself, saying hey, I deserve better than this. That after behaving narcissistically or making a mistake or saying something mean to DH I am still worthy. I fall off kilter and I think it is natural but I am able to find my way back to my own self-worth.
When someone tries and devalues my worth because I am an only child or am jobless or for whatever reason that this isn’t acceptable and that that is how someone else measures it. And on the flip side, I too come with a nicely defined worthiness list that I grew up thinking that my own and other’s is measured by this. And I am so grateful that the narcissists have helped me see that this list only exists as long as I keep it alive with my own behaviours towards others and myself.