I got two very interesting e-mails recently from the 2 Sophisticated Narcissistic Female Friends in my life. I am trying the fade away approach with both of them…and hoping it leads to permanent no contact. Yup…I’m trying to avoid a conflict with these sophisticated Ns.
20 February (via Facebook e-mail):
Lydia: Hey, how’s things? We’re just back from our winter holiday in France.
Me: Hi Lydia, We’re good…how r u? Cool…hope the snow was plentiful!
No response after that. Then she sends another one on 27 April:
Lydia: Hows it going? Been far too long…
Me: Hi! We are doing good! How are you guys? How are the kids doing?
It is like she wants to point out that she isn’t responding to my e-mails…BUT in order to get any e-mail from me she has to send me one so she can ignore it. It’s like she wants to say to me ‘See, I’m ignoring you?’…But that is a total paradox! I’m not initiating contact with her…haven’t been for a year now. How messed up is that? If she doesn’t respond I don’t send another e-mail I just let it be. How evil are these Ns? Seriously, they have to send an e-mail so that I respond. So sick and wrong!
Narc # 2 (wife of my boyfriend’s best friend) – a week ago.
Samy: hey, been thinking about you! how are things on your side of the pond?
Me: Hi Samy! It is great to hear from you! We are doing good! Today, summer might have arrived (fingers crossed)…the first warm day…itching to go outside today!
How are you? How are your husband and kids?
Seriously, what is with them. Samy hasn’t responded. I haven’t contacted Samy since the beginning of this year. I decided after seeing her over the holidays that she was most definitely a Sophisticated N.
Has anyone tried the fade out a friend approach? How is it going?