No matter what intensity level your N is…it is exhausting to deal with them. I have RNs (Remote Narcissists) who live quite a distance away and Low Intensity Ns that may or may not have NPD but the little interaction I have with them…make it exhausting to deal with them.
This last month I had contact with an RN and a LYN (Low Intensity N) via the chat in Facebook. The RN (Lydia) starting texting me on FB. So the chat basically goes like this…I ask all the questions…and she answers…I respond to her answer with something like…’oh…that is great’ or ‘sorry, to hear that’. Then I think she will start chatting or, I don’t know, ask me a question about my life. Nope. Nada. Niks. I ask a question about her life…kids, hubby, the list goes on…still no question my way. Okay, I was exhausted…it was a TAKE, TAKE, TAKE from her. She had a point to chatting with me…she had an ulterior motive…she got to it…and the conversation ended.
Then a LYN started texting me…I approached cautiously…conversation went like this…I asked questions…I got responses…I reacted to responses…and then nothing… Nada. Niks. Got exhausted after I asked my 3rd question. I set my boundary. I told him I’m going to bed. Ended this conversation before the ulterior motive came up.
No matter what level of N you have got it is exhausting…the energy it takes to interact with them. What a lesson… Really just can’t be bothered anymore. Ever feel just so exhausted even if you had to deal with them for 5 minutes? Seriously, they suck the energy right out of you.