Friendship and Friends.
Friendship: the state of being friends
Friends: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard
This is how Friendship was defined by our friends Lydia and Don (married Narcissistic Couple). When Lydia and Don were moving from the town we lived in together to a place 8 hours away by car this what each of them said to us on one of last nights getting together for drinks.
Lydia: ‘It was nice to live in this Town, after you have lived her for a while you meet people that you can rely on. We have people here that if we need something we can call them right away to get something done. We will have to find those people in our new place.’
Don: ‘The move is a good thing for us. After all, we have no emotional ties to anyone in this Town.’
On the walk back I was so sad from these comments. At that time I hadn’t realized how Narcissistic they are. But I was so hurt…it was like Lydia valued the fact that they could call us to babysit their kids anytime, we moved them to their new house (everything piece of furniture)…only what we did for them…and it was clear by what Don said…no emotional ties…they didn’t see us as friends…just people to serve them.
Even in what seems to be like normal conversation the Narcissist reveals themselves in such subtle ways.
P.S. Here is some information if you are recovering from a Narcissistic Mother.
HEALING THE DAUGHTERS OF NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS
Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, presents her five-step recovery model for daughters of narcissistic mothers. A 2 and ½ day workshop at the Inverness Hotel in Denver, is scheduled for October 7, 8 and 9, 2011. The five-step model includes:
•Learn how to accept your mother’s limitations.
•Gain assistance in the grief process required for healing.
•Recognize the importance of separation/individuation and the significance to building your own sense of self.
•Work on becoming your authentic self.
•Discover how to deal with your mother and have healthy interaction with appropriate boundaries.
•Learn how to deal differently with narcissistic family dynamics including fathers and siblings who don’t understand.
•Stop the legacy of distorted love in parenting, love relationships and friendships.
Register now! The deadline for registration is October 1, 2011. 20 hour CEU letter available for therapists.
Go to www.nevergoodenough.com or call 303-420-9565.