When I looked at my parents I often asked myself: how are they together?
I did find a lot of information on narcissism and their partners (since posting in 2011) but I don’t think there is an easy answer anymore to that. I felt that in most of the couples I knew where one was highly narcissistic both were narcissistic and that is the reference I make to narcissistic couples – NOT one person with narcissism and the other not (being in a relationship with a N). Being in a relationship with one and the term narcissistic couple are different terms.
My story in this post is about the couples I know where I have encountered highly narcissistic traits in both of them. When I looked at how they behaved towards me it was a partners in crime approach. Where both partners are narcissistic to each other and then separately narcissistic to their respective friends.
I have made a mistake in posting a theory that at the time gave me comfort but was not appropriate – classifying people.
I don’t think I will ever have an answer to why my Dad stuck it out with my Mother. I wish he hadn’t. I guess sometimes I feel crazy to think it would have been better if they got a divorce.
I really believe that my Dad and how he loved me (unconditionally) is the only reason why I am able to correct my narcissistic behaviours.